The effect of adoption on the birth mother is the stigmatization and psychological effects that women may experience when they place their child for adoption. General incomplete post-partisan counseling is a common finding of several studies conducted.
The decision to give up the birthright of a child is a heavy burden on the maternal psychological makeup. The biological mother can feel a sense of loss for someone who is still alive. He may be grieving over losing his mother's role and perhaps mourning for whom his son became his son or daughter. These feelings may reappear in the coming years, perhaps on the child's birthday, or other important milestones in a child's life. Some doctors report that mothers who give birth feel sad when they have more children because it may often evoke the memory of the child they submit. If they are facing infertility in the future, they may believe it is a form of "punishment" for releasing their parenting rights over the child. Many mothers who give birth continue to grieve for the loss of their child, but with varying intensity.
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Stages of grief
Not until a mother actually puts her child to adoption, she experiences what Julie Axelrod believes is similar to the five stages of sadness: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. Inspired by Elisabeth KÃÆ'übler-Ross's In Death and Death , the author tries to show how those who have experienced the death of a loved one may be psychologically similar to the biological mother who has placed her child for adoption.
The following happens at every stage:
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The extraordinary emotion of the mother's emotions made her feel numb to the situation. Basically, reality has not been set.
Anger
This emotion is a manifestation of reality, an understanding of how to destroy the impact that mother has on her and its understandable vulnerability. This can cause the mother to attack the people closest to her or herself.
Bargain
The mother begins to rethink the decision she made. He felt the need to regain control of his emotional state by trying to negotiate with a religious or psychological figure to get rid of his guilt.
Reception
There is no timetable for when or whether a mother will be able to accept her decision, but at this stage she begins to feel at peace with her decision. He still struggles with the reality of adoption, but understands and truly believes that he acts in the best interests of the child.
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Identity issue
Placing a child for adoption may also cause an identity problem in the mother giving birth. They may feel the desire to establish who the child is in their lives and what role they will play in their lives. Mothers in open or mediated adoption can be presented with more identity problems when they interact with host families. Placing a child for adoption does not mean the biological mother will never be able to contact the child. Adoption may include some communication between the biological mother and the adoptive family. Both parties need to decide the degree of openness to adoption.
Establish a post-adoption relationship
Some mothers who give birth may have difficulty shaping and maintaining post-adoption relationships. This may be due to a constant feeling of loss and guilt, or for fear of becoming pregnant again and repeating the process. Some mothers who give birth can try to replace the loss quickly by starting a new relationship, or regenerating - without dealing with the sadness of adoption. For some mothers who give birth, the capacity to build a successful long-term relationship may depend on the openness with which they can relate their past experiences with adoption to their spouses. The eventual acceptance of this loss does not mean that a mother giving birth has forgotten the child, but instead means that she has integrated the loss into her life.
Maternity exploitation
In underdeveloped countries, international adoption is generally treated as a business in which women and children are commodities. This violates some of the standards and guidelines provided by the United Nations. In many cases, reports from Argentina, Brazil, El Salvador, Guatemala, Honduras, Thailand, and other countries indicate that children have been placed for adoption after being purchased, required, or kidnapped from the biological mother. In one instance in Colombia, children were purchased for $ 600 and sold for $ 10,000 using illegal and fake paper. In Honduras, it was found that to correct inadequate pre-natal care, many traders pay adolescent girls to conceive and monitor them to ensure they eat well and receive some kind of care. After the baby is born, $ 50 is paid to the biological mother in exchange for a healthy baby. While foreign adoption provides some countries with much needed foreign currency, maternity exploitation raises some ethical and human rights issues. Lack of information about circumstances involving the conception, birth, and placement of a child creates a dilemma for women adopting internationally who have a pro-choice view and may very possibly adopt from women with few choices.
Usually this system involves people with language skills and literacy, resources, and social positions to interact with the world-first adoption agencies and prospective adoptive parents. These people send spies or recruiters to target and capitalize on poor families and mothers. Natural mothers are often induced by false promises of money, continuing contact with their children after adoption, or even immigration to the first world. In such instances, many licensed licensed institutions in recipient countries such as the United States, Canada and Europe adopt through illegal channels without their knowledge, contributing to the flow of funds and illegal trade in child trafficking and the exploitation of the mother.
See also
- International adoption
References
External links
- The Trauma of Relinquishment: Long-Term Impact of Release on the Missing Moms Who Lost Their Babies for Adoption during 1965-1972
- The Influence of Adoption on Mental Health Mothers: What Professionals Know and Do Not Tell Us.
- Still Shout - the first major British publication of the biological parenting experience (Published 2001)
- Research and research on mother giving birth
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